Have you noticed your journey through dating, love and relationships unfolds with a common theme or story? Personally, as a Love and Relationship Success Coach I believe many of us fall into the trap of putting more effort into deciding what we will wear on a date than we do deciding if our date is the best possible match for us. This approach to finding a partner usually requires a great deal of “luck” to be successful. And that’s fine, if you are happy with the quality and type of partner this approach has brought about thus far. However, if you are sick and tired of the dating treadmill, and are truly ready to discover genuine compatibility, companionship and partnership, then you’ll need something other than “luck”.
The truth is, deliberately finding yourself in a beautiful, reciprocal, loving relationship requires making a change deep within yourself. A mental shift is needed. And while making a mental shift may sound like a small thing, I assure you it is not. Doing so requires time and dedication, and only happens by deliberately replacing unfavorable patterns of action steps that you’ve previously taken as well as outdated beliefs with healthy new ones.
Here are three very important things to consider about the role that you play in the process of manifesting your dream partnership.
- What value do you bring into a relationship?
This concept is very important, as it will help you become acutely aware and appreciative of who you are as a person and the value that you bring to a relationship. It is human nature to point out ours or another’s shortcomings, it seems more of a challenge when asked to identify and discuss our good points, our assets, and the things about ourselves that are truly exceptional. If this question makes you uncomfortable, that is Okay. Take mental note of what it is that is making you uncomfortable, and just remember this pattern of thinking can and will be changed. I invite you to make a list of 8 positive qualities that you deliver within your relationships.
- What are the traits you desire MOST and LEAST in a Relationship?
Asking yourself this question will help you become VERY clear on the top 3 traits you Desire MOST in your new love. Also, I invite you to take a close look at the top 3 traits you deem totally UNACCEPTABLE in any relationship; especially a romantic one. I cannot stress enough how important it is that you dig deep down inside yourself for the most true and honest answers you have.
- What type of relationship structure works best for me?
Have you spent time building a vision what the perfect relationship looks like for you? Have you given yourself permission to determine which type of relationship structure works best for you? Today, I’m sure we can all agree there are many types of romantic relationships. The idea of a “traditional” relationship might be another pattern that you are interested in shifting. This is a great opportunity for you to check in and explore what it is that really defines your perfect relationship.
The 4 most commonly recognized relationship structures are:
- Fully committed and living together
- Fully committed and living apart
- Any structure you can negotiate (including polyamory).
Life is not one-size-fits-all, so feel free to journal, you get to create an outline of your perfect relationship and choose exactly how you’d love for it to unfold.
Remember, you can have the life that you would love living, while creating your perfect relationship. As a gift to you I have included a link to download a free meditation that I’ve crafted to support you in making room for love. Click here to download that meditation now.
If you’re looking for a guide to support you in creating a life that you truly love, I, Donna Broadwell, CHt., CMT am here to serve. I am proud to be a Certified Hypnotherapist, Certified Life Coach, Reiki Master, Teacher, and Imagery Master. I get to live my dream of abundance and specializes in serving others to experience the same! If you would love to grow and expand into new ways of living your best life feel invited to connect with me for a complimentary strategy call.